you ain't got it til you get it
Practice makes perfect. Practice something other than dominance and submission in the bedroom and see what happens.
The transformation, power, and taboo pleasure that people attribute to kink and BDSM isn't actually from the kink...
it's because the kink is the avenue through which you are recognizing your wholeness, and your whole, healed self is where true power lies.
If you give away this power believing it lives inside kinky expression, you aren't really embracing wholeness.
You're pimping it out for a good time while you get on with life the rest of the time.
The unkinking is in letting go of the idea that your pleasure is something you can decide to turn on and off. That you can opt into dominance and submission for funsies and opt out when it's not convenient.
If you love saying saying yes please sir and groveling for freedom and validation in the bedroom what makes you think the universe doesn't hear you when your boss gives you shit at work? You've sent a cosmic message that you're into that. 😉
Practice makes perfect. Practice something other than dominance and submission and see what happens.
